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I have been grieving the loss of my friend since he has come back from Afghanistan. I have been at such a loss because he has pushed me away. He nit picks everything I do, and is cruel at times. And this past weekend was the meanest he has been. I have not seen him in over a month. I do not understand. While in Afghanistan I wrote him a letter every week, sent him packages, emails and just supported him 100%. He even went so far as to send me gifts while stationed there. I was like a little kid at the candy store, because I felt that even in a war zone he took the time to think of me. I was so excited when he came home. But at the welcome home ceremony his hug was cold and so short. I know my expectations may have been too high for when he got back home, but I did not know that he was going to push me away. I would call him and ask him when we were going to be able to just hang out and his response was always I don't know, I am busy. I thought that maybe he just wanted some time away and alone because of having to re-adjust, so I did not crowd his space. I have not nagged him or bothered him. I have told him that I am here for you. He told me I was a civilian and would not understand. I have told him that I will never know what he has been through but I am here for you. I feel that he is in bad company right now and know he is drinking, but that is my observation. He may think otherwise. I have always been there for him. I have been a loving, caring, very supportive, understanding, patient and good friend. I miss him so. He has been diagnosed with PTSD, and I told him it would benefit him going to counseling, He said he had made an appointment but was not going to get in until Feb. of 2010. This was over two months ago. He preceded to let me know that I did not need to worry. I have friends who have told me to just let him go. To walk away, but I can not. I care deeply for this man. I thought I could handle anything that life placed in my path but I am at a loss. I do not call him anymore because he does not answer the phone or return any of my text messages. Again, I feel as if i am walking on egg shells. I have prayed for him everyday. and hope that what ever it is out there, it helps him understand that I am here for him. I have looked on line for support groups and have found none for friends. It is all for married, or girlfriends. Does anyone have any advice. My heart and gut tell me not to walk away. And not to give up.